September 6 is claimed as World Oral Sex Day (yes, 6/9), referring to one of the best-known positions in the Kamasutra, where it’s known as “the crow position”.
For those who haven’t tried it yet, it involves inverting your bodies in a horizontal position, hence the name. And although some couples enjoy it to the fullest, others not so much, because they feel uncomfortable, uncoordinated, and think it’s better to give pleasure one at a time rather than simultaneously.
That’s why today we’re going to talk about some variations on the famous and overrated 69 so that you don’t miss out on trying it. Of course, take all the necessary biosecurity measures so you don’t end up with back pain or a stiff neck.
Location: the bed is one option, but there are tantric couches that are more comfortable for getting the most out of this position.
The importance of hands: a common mistake is not giving enough attention to the hands when performing 69. The truth is that, when combined with the lips and tongue, this can be very pleasurable. In addition, other parts of the body can be stimulated so as not to focus solely on the genitals.
Protect your neck: a recommendation for those on the bottom; using a pillow or cushion not only allows better access to your partner, but is also more comfortable and could prevent neck pain later on.
Mutual communication: before, during, and after any sexual encounter, it’s good to talk about what we DO like and what we DON’T like in order to understand each other better, and not imagine or assume situations that aren’t happening. Remember that we are not mind readers.
Continuing with the celebration of this hot day, we’ll tell you about five ways to reboot 69. Starting from the classic position, some variations have been created to reach other levels of pleasure and not fall into a routine.
Reverse 69: if the couple is heterosexual, in this new version, the woman is on the bottom and the man is on top to perform and control during oral sex.
Sideways: the original position is imitated, except that each person lies on their side next to the other. This avoids discomfort, especially when there is a difference in height and disproportionate weight. There are no limitations here, the muscles are relaxed, and there is less effort and more comfort.
Sitting backwards: for the more daring, this position has a degree of difficulty, but it’s not impossible. Your mission, should you choose to accept, is for one of you to remain seated on the sofa or in a reclining chair, while the other approaches from above and leans down until hanging, so that both of you have access to each other’s genitals. Not suitable for people with high blood pressure, lower back pain, or circulatory problems. If you have circus skills or are a trapeze artist, go for it, but with caution.
It’s recommended that the man or the stronger person sits down, as they will have to support most of their partner’s weight, while their partner supports themselves with their arms on their partner’s legs or on the base of the sofa.
Standing: known as standing 69, this is the most difficult of all. The woman should stand at the edge of the bed and he should place his hands under her waist. At that moment, she should take advantage and place her legs over her partner’s shoulders and then hug his body.
The woman will be face down, which is quite a demanding position, so it’s advisable not to prolong it for too long and avoid accidents or unnecessary physical strain.
On the edge of the bed: the woman is positioned on the edge of the bed and her partner, instead of lifting her up, raises her hips up to his face. This is a preparatory position if they want to move on to the standing variation.
In this position, as we said, your hands are very important, because as long as you’ve discussed it with your partner, ANYTHING goes; so you can give free rein to your imagination by using, for example, a vibrator or dildo to increase stimulation and ensure that the movements are NOT focused solely on the tongue.
You can also use a vibrating ring on the penis to improve erection, if both of you have a penis, as it can be a more pleasurable alternative. Another option is to use lubricants to stimulate the genitals and the whole body beforehand, creating a pleasurable sensation.
69 is a physically demanding position that requires complicity and dedication. It’s also a practice of trust, there are smells and secretions, and the anus is very visible, so it’s mandatory and necessary to take a good bath.
Sexologist Ana Lombardía comments: “Rather than focusing on tricks or techniques, the most important thing is to focus on enjoying what you are doing; 69 is a practice that not everyone likes, as it’s often difficult to think about your own pleasure while you are busy providing it”.
Lombardía adds that it’s important to have a good time while giving pleasure and explains the concept of positive selfishness: “It’s about being aware of whether you find receiving pleasurable while you are giving it”.
The point is to break the monotony and have an unforgettable and fun experience in which both partners feel comfortable and are willing to enjoy themselves.
And although it has a degree of complexity and some limitations, the good thing is that it’s perfect for mutual oral sex, ideal for foreplay, and best of all, it can be the highlight of a #sinrecato encounter.
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés
