Throughout quarantine I have had the opportunity to interact with followers of Sin Recato, and by doing so I have realized that their profiles are very different in each social network.
On Facebook they are somewhat shy but curious, on Instagram they are extroverted and on Twitter they are more carefree when it comes to sexual content, since there are many accounts that offer their services as single, bull or unicorn.
Among my followers, there are many profiles, soI was curious to talk with someone who has had a swinger experience (SW).
I messaged Manuel* (as he asked me to call him like), we talked for almost two hours and he told me his story: “It all started more than 15 years ago, in the middle of nights of rumba; a Saturday, I was partying with some friends and while I was dancing with the wife of one of them, he told me, out of the blue: Would you like to be with us? I pretended that I understood and just denied the offer. On Sunday, part of the group went to the beach. The husband approached me and said: “Hey, yesterday my wife told me that, if you wanted to be with us, she wants to have a threesome, wanna give it a try?”, at that moment I understood everything clearly and with the beach drinks, we finished in Juan Mina for several hours and I got to know the swinger world (SW)”.
Manuel has been married for 21 years and has been a SW for almost 16 years. In the middle of his marriage, he has had a relationship that lasted four years and another that lasted nine years. “My wife knows it and she has had a good time too”, he says.
“I have, particularly, dated popular couples in Barranquilla, but if I see them on the street, I act as if I didn’t know them, unless they approach me and greet me. In the meantime, everything is in the past”.
He spoke about how that first time was, how he felt and what happened from then on: “It was very strange, not because of the woman, but because of the man. The first time “I” didn’t work, although we tried, there was only oral sex, I was sorta afraid. In the end they told me that they had been SW for more than two years ”.
This couple ‘taught him a lot’, introduced him to other couples and invited him to create a single profile on Twitter. They told him about some rules such as having a single label, which becomes a ‘toy’ for the couple who want to enjoy with them. It is important to talk to the couples, knowing what they want and how far they want to go.
If the single enters a relationship, they must pay for the room, drinks, condoms, etc. But as Manuel admits, as time passes by everything changes, in the end if a couple likes you they look for you and pay everything or everybody pays and the thing becomes more compliant.
Twitter is a free open window to the SW world, here couples comment that they want men, women are offered, they offer or sell themselves (scort, prepaid), a lot of things happen there, says Manuel. Depending on the profile, people start to be friends, writing direct messages, and when trust is gained, they message each other through WhatsApp.
Of course, in quarantine, many virtual meetings are organized by people through different apps, such as meet, zoom, WhatsApp, to see each other in real life. “I am judicious, I am afraid of the virus,” he confesses.
Curious couples
Swinger couples want new experiences. They are married couples who want to get out of the routine, but anything can happen in quarantine. There are also young swinger couples; in other words, not married, as usual.
“From July until today, dating couples’ accounts who want to experiment have grown. They have had meetings in houses, not in motels, and have intimacy with each other. Most of them upload photos and videos in their respective accounts of how the meeting was”, he says.
Although the SW theme is known in the United States and Europe, for many years, there has being many famous couples from the entertainment industry, popular in Barranquilla, who are SW too. Even a co-worker of yours can be, but because of the taboo and what people will say, they hide it.
It is important to talk to the couples, knowing what they want and how far they want to go.
In so many years everything has happened to him, like the day a couple sent him a photo and the woman was very pretty, he went out with them and when they met the woman was very different from the one he saw in the photo. He no longer felt like it, so they just kept talking and nothing happened.
“I have as a code to respect the couples with whom I share. If I receive an invitation from a wife to go out, I always ask her if her husband will call me, or if he knows, but if the husband doesn’t know, I won’t go out with her; If the husband calls me and tells me that he wants his wife to go out with me because we already know each other, then I go out with her. But almost all spouses ask for the same thing, they want to see by live video, call, or recorded video what happens between the two of us”.
Although Manuel is clearly an all-rounder, he also has his exceptions: “I don’t like public parties in SW bars, it’s too messy. I’m always careful, indeed, but many times, some couples smoke marijuana and I can’t just say no to that”.
In the SW world, single men are known as single, or bull, who has sex with the wife, or hotwife, of the cuckold, who is the husband who watches and does not participate. The wife is with other men and her husband knows it, in this case, but the roles can be exchanged. Single women are known as unicorn and most of the time they are bisexual (BI).
For Manuel, the best thing in this world is that many couples regain their sexuality; they become accomplices; Although he does not deny that other couples get out of control and eventually break up. He says it is a serious game in which he commits a lot, but it must be ‘played’ well in order to get your partner back and not losing them.
The #sinrecato question is: Are you prepared to live such an experience?
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés.
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