When it comes to sex, and the topics of quality and quantity, some people take it personally and argue that one well-executed encounter is better than many failed attempts.
However, the reality is that every couple has their own timing and rhythm. Of course, there are moments when there’s energy, desire, and the right atmosphere for the action to last all day or night, and the gentleman can do it more than once.
When we have an orgasm, we release oxytocin (a hormone that lowers testosterone levels) and prolactin (a hormone that lowers dopamine levels), and before the next round begins, there’s a period of time known as the refractory period.
This “timeout,” for short, occurs in both men and women, but not immediately, because our anatomy and physiology are very different from theirs. As a saying that we have in Spanish goes: “The man falls asleep, and the woman is still in the mood.”
According to some studies, the refractory period and its duration vary from person to person. In women, it’s shorter than in men.
For 18-year-old men, the average is 28 minutes, while for 70-year-old men it’s 20 hours, however, the overall average for adult men is approximately 55 minutes.
The #sinrecato question is: Can a man have multiple ejaculations? And the experts’ answer is yes, due to many factors that can contribute to this pleasurable multiplicity, such as:
- Maintaining healthy eating habits, exercising, avoiding alcohol, and not smoking.
- Training the pelvic floor with Kegel exercises.
- Controlling your breathing.
- Varying the rhythm and intensity during stimulation.
- Daring to discover new erogenous zones, positions, and places you haven’t tried before.
- Stimulating the P-spot (the prostate), which leads to more intense and prolonged orgasms.
In addition to these factors, there are psychological elements such as stress, anxiety, and emotional well-being that can affect a man’s sexual performance and ejaculation frequency.
If the stress levels are too high, it can lead to a hormonal imbalance that affects sexual arousal and reduces the ability to ejaculate.
And take note: The greater the intimacy or emotional connection with a partner is, the more frequently men may ejaculate. But if it’s the other way around, and feelings of detachment or a lack of attraction are stronger, it can lead to difficulties ejaculating.
There’s a number of misconceptions surrounding male ejaculation that have caused a great deal of confusion, for example:
More is always better: Some studies suggest that regular ejaculation may reduce the risk of certain prostate conditions.
Reality: Excessive ejaculation, without proper recovery, could lead to fatigue and decreased sexual satisfaction.
Older age, fewer ejaculations: Another myth is that older men CANNOT ejaculate as much as younger men.
Reality: Although age can affect sexual performance, many older men still have plenty of stamina to enjoy satisfying sexual experiences and ejaculate several times a day or night, depending, of course, on their health and libido.
Ejaculation = Pleasure: Another myth is that ejaculation is solely about pleasure, and while it is a pleasurable experience, it also serves important biological functions.
Reality: It plays a fundamental role in reproduction. Additionally, it provides psychological benefits such as stress relief and improved mood due to the release of hormones and neurotransmitters.
Frequent male ejaculation is associated with many potential health benefits, such as increased libido and the preservation of penile tissue elasticity, which leads to improved sexual performance.
This practice also stimulates blood flow to the genital area, which is key to maintaining erectile function. The cycle of sexual activity creates a virtuous circle where better sexual health leads to more frequent sexual experiences, benefiting couples’ physical and emotional intimacy.
And while there are many benefits, there are also some downsides, such as physical fatigue from overexertion, which significantly lowers energy levels, and emotional distress. Remember that when the frequency of ejaculation becomes compulsive, it can lead to feelings of guilt or anxiety.
Many healthy men can ejaculate several times a day, and while this is important, it’s also valid to recognize that each person has a different rhythm and frequency that is directly related to their physical health, lifestyle, and, of course, mental well-being.
Listen to your body and explore it without too many expectations so as not to create unnecessary pressure, because you would be missing out on the best part of your sexual encounters, which is connecting with your partner #sinrecato.
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés
