Today I’m going to tell you about masturbation as a couple, a sexual activity that has been mistakenly believed to be exclusive to young, single people, but nothing could be further from the truth.
We are living in an era of sexual empowerment for both men and women, where the use of sex toys has also become normalized, and everyone feels they’re in control of their own pleasure and responsible for their own sexual satisfaction.
Some people wonder and want to know: what happens if you masturbate while in a relationship?
“It’s common to think that, when in a relationship, masturbation is no longer necessary or even that it should be avoided. This idea stems from the mistaken belief that masturbation is a substitute for shared sexual relations. Or the idea that masturbating alone means being dissatisfied with our partner or not feeling desire for them”, explains spanish psychologist and sexologist, Nayara Malnero.
We shouldn’t view masturbation solely as a source of pleasure, whether alone or with a partner, but rather as a bonus for a couple’s sex life. When you explore your body, you learn how it responds to pleasure and how it doesn’t. It’s something you can also share with your partner to enhance intimacy and communication.
Let’s recall some benefits of this natural practice, which not only provides pleasure and self-awareness on an individual level but also allows you to discover different types of stimulation without rushing, without pressure, and simply letting yourself flow with the moment.
Among other benefits we can find helping to reduce stress, improving sleep quality, and releasing endorphins, which contributes to emotional well-being. On a physiological level, it boosts the immune system, improves the appearance of skin, hair, and nails, and promotes blood circulation in the genital area, which enhances sexual response and strengthens the pelvic floor.
Life as a couple is sometimes full of routines, even sexually, so it’s good to try new experiences like shared masturbation to get to know each other’s preferences, reduce performance pressure, and connect with your intimacy.
This erotic experience allows couples to discover new ways of connecting during sex; it’s deeply satisfying to see how much your partner is enjoying themselves. It’s a safe space where both of you can express yourselves without the pressure to reach orgasm, perform, or meet expectations.
According to the sexologist, masturbation as a couple provides significant improvements in the treatment of sexual dysfunctions, such as premature ejaculation, low sexual desire, or vaginismus, among others, because partners can fully enjoy their intimacy without worrying about what they can’t do.
Here are some recommendations from the expert:
1.- Create a comfortable atmosphere with details you both enjoy, such as soft lighting, scented candles, and a pleasant temperature.
2.- Open communication. Talk #sinrecato to your partner; tell them what you like and what you don’t like, don’t hide anything, this is the time to be honest.
3.- Don’t think about the happy ending or reaching orgasm, just enjoy the sensations, there’s no rush.
4.- Plan to use sex toys to enjoy new experiences.
5.- Using lubricants makes stimulation smoother and intensifies the sensations.
6.- Be bold, try new things, and experiment, because variety is the spice of life.
Touching each other can be very beneficial and pleasurable, taking your sexuality to the next level. So take it seriously and don’t miss the chance to experiment with your partner. As the song says: dale a tu cuerpo alegría… Don’t go against your body’s desires, keep giving it what it craves.
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés
