Some women, after an orgasm, experience another orgasm and then another, like a more intense or faster aftershock. And while this is a response the body may produce, the thing is that it doesn’t happen to all women. That’s why the question is: Can we all achieve it? Or are some women just anatomically privileged?
Today we’ll talk #sinrecato about multiple orgasms, which science classifies as a biological “superpower” of women, because while men generally experience a drastic drop in arousal after orgasm, for us it’s normal to remain in the plateau phase.
The female sexual response, during the resolution phase, that is, when the body returns to a state of calm, is almost nonexistent, whereas in men it works very differently.
For men, this refractory phase lasts several minutes, like a timeout after a round. On the other hand, women can become aroused again in seconds with the right stimulation, since the nervous system triggers one response after another without having to “reset.”
There are several types of multiple orgasms:
- Successive orgasms: They occur one after another, almost without pause, keeping arousal at a very high level.
- Sequential orgasms: There is a dip in intensity for a few minutes, but the climax is quickly regained without losing the rhythm of arousal.
The good news is that it’s possible for all women to experience multiple orgasms.
According to studies conducted by American biologist Alfred Kinsey at Indiana University in 1953 and thereafter, it was revealed that between 15 and 20% of women regularly experience multiple orgasms.
The important thing to understand here is that ALL women have the biological capacity to experience this; what varies are certain factors that can influence it, such as fatigue or exhaustion, hypersensitivity in the clitoris after the first orgasm, and, at times, a lack of continuous stimulation.
If you’re hoping for it to happen magically, the truth is that no body works that way. That’s why experts suggest the following recommendations:
1. “Don’t Stop ‘Til You Get Enough”: Once you feel the first orgasm, lower the intensity, but don’t stop the stimulation. However, if the area is quite sensitive (the clitoris) and you’re using a toy for stimulation, for example, switch to manual caresses or gentle suction.
2. Change your focus: If your clitoris is very sensitive, you can focus on vaginal stimulation or move on to other parts of the vulva, such as the labia majora and minora, etc.
3. It’s all in your mind: If you want to continue, the desire will remain. Otherwise, if you’re satisfied, don’t push yourself to continue, because instead of feeling pleasure, you’ll likely feel uncomfortable.
4. Kegel exercises: Exercising your pelvic floor improves blood flow and the intensity of contractions, which leads to better orgasms. Of course, you can consult this with your trusted gynecologist to have them design a routine for you.
Remember that every body is different and every sexual encounter is unique, so not having multiple orgasms isn’t a problem. After all, having them doesn’t make you a “superwoman,” and if they don’t happen, there’s nothing wrong with you either.
Spanish clinical sexologist and couples therapist Bárbara Montes suggests “practicing, practicing, and practicing. If an orgasm doesn’t happen, don’t worry, we assure you that there’s plenty of enjoyment along the way.”
In addition, she explains that the key is to explore your body to understand it and discover what you like, as well as to find pleasure through other elements such as lubricants or things like suction toys or vibrators.
It’s not a challenge or a marathon; don’t see orgasm as the finish line, what matters is the journey.
Whether there was a single orgasm or none at all, what should matter most to you is that the sexual encounter was pleasurable, filled with eroticism, trust, connection, intimacy, and communication, and, of course, that you experienced it intensely with the person you love and enjoy #sinrecato.
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés
